Men as responsible husbands
Men are meant to be consistent under normal circumstances. Regrettably not so when the home is unnecessarily chaotic and unsettled. Where spouses are becoming unfriendly, possibly for unfounded reasons. Gossip and hearsay from friends and neighbours. These and many more account for why some men are not consistent. If one’s spouse constantly becomes hostile, returning home from the office is a problem. In a situation like this, a man has to remain outside for another 2 hours. Therefore, it is not a deliberate act. In a marital setting, men are regarded as responsible husbands.
In some cases, men are truly responsible for the fuss. At the same time, some are not patient enough to handle situations. Certain marital issues required discipline, maturity, and understanding. Usually, most marital differences can be effectively handled without a third party. But things can easily degenerate when appropriate action is not taken. A couple should take adequate cognizance of body language, countenance, and utterances. Nagging is a poison to men, except where one ignores it. Everyone knows his/her spouse’s character. And what he or she is capable of doing at every point in time. Approach to issues differs, from one home to another.
Maintaining peace at home
Maintaining peace at home requires a great deal of patience and sacrifice. So men are usually advised to maintain peace with their spouses. Though this can be expensive sometimes. But what is important is the availability of peace and love in a marital setting. Ensuring strong unity between you and your spouse is healthy in marital life. Timely reconciliation of rift is efficient. Unnecessary delays in the process of reconciliation should be discouraged. Don’t give room for undue blame or argument in marital life. And as such, when you establish permanent love in your marriage intruders will not have a space.
In an attempt to avoid the problem
Nevertheless, little misunderstanding and carelessness can lead to a more serious altercation. In an attempt to avoid problems in the home, men may decide to go out. So as not to respond to their spouses’ annoyances. Sometimes there are reasons for our spouses to complain. Much more reasons to express their displeasure. In some instances, women may react to their spouses’ unfaithful steps.
At any rate, depending on the presentation, all problems have solutions. If you accuse your spouse wrongly, he may react. It is also wrong to react to all complaints. To have a better understanding of our spouses is relevant. And to be inconsistent at home is not wise. Importantly, an effective antidote is to study your spouse’s character. This gives you an opportunity to know and recognize his/her dos and don’t. By this many issues would have been treated with despatch before degenerating.
Communication in marriage
Take advantage of effective communication in marriage. Be the type that speaks out when and where it is necessary. Never hide your feeling from your spouse. Ask questions about what seems to be ambiguous in your spouse’s character. Character change in marital life is peculiar to an individual in wedlock. At any rate, always take interest in what makes your spouse happy and avoid those things that ignite his/her annoyance.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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