Argue your points
It is good to argue with your spouse, but you must be mindful of its potential drawbacks. The implication of some of our utterances and choice of words. All these can bring about discontent or outright dissatisfaction on the part of your spouse. Often people lose control when an argument gets to a point. Particularly, where each side makes emphasis and references to justify his/her claims. Countenance occasionally changes following the trend of the argument, therefore, discard unnecessary arguments in a marital setting.
Though, argument creates a good platform to stress your points. It shows the capability of the two parties in an argument. Sometimes, its conclusion reveals the best position of things. And many more advantages to the credit of argument. But it does not always have a good position in a marital setting. The effect of this stuff can be highly devastating on the fountain of marriage. Because each time an argument comes up, countenance changes. Thereby someone becomes unhappy. It is beneficial to discard unnecessary argument in a marital setting.
Influence of disagreement on marriage
An argument is a resultant effect of disagreement. It usually comes up due to a lack of understanding. Where couples find it difficult to agree on a subject matter. It, therefore, shows that a common ground cannot be ascertained. For this reason, the ground is automatically opened for debate. Because each of the parties will like to prove his/her stand. But, unfortunately, it does not always have a good end. The fact is that one may not know when to stop. At any rate, if there is no doubt. There would not be any need for a serious argument.
Under normal circumstances where a couple understands themselves there is no need for a serious misconception. No issue will be allowed to degenerate, irrespective of individual perception. What is essential is the purpose they intend to achieve. And not the argument that ensued instead. A mature couple will not in any way give room for unnecessary arguments. However, a moderate and purposeful debate is sometimes healthy for marriage.
Of course, there are instances where an argument is the order of the day. Some couples don’t see an argument as a fight. They prefer arguing their point. It is part of their life. And they don’t see it to be anything serious. However, this is not the case in many homes.
Instead of arguing, a better way to handle issues can be developed. To bring about good reasons to convince your spouse is better than argument. At any rate, an effort should be made to discard unnecessary argument in a marital setting.
Effect of argument on a relationship
What is important is to be proactive on marital issues. This concept would enable you to prevent cracks in a marital wall. Many things, often go wrong in a marriage when issues are not tackled on time. Necessarily in marriage, certain delicate issues must not be allowed to tarry too long. So, it’s not a question of argument. You may decide to ignore it to prevent unnecessary contention. Of course, an unnecessary debate usually results in hatred.
How to avoid unnecessary argument
- Be factual
- Make use of available evidence
- Be patient when making your points so that, your spouse does not misunderstand you.
- Be attentive when your spouse is making his/her point
- Be sincere in your thought
- Avoid generalizing
- Consider the benefits at the instance of your marriage
- Avoid unnecessary comparison
- An apology without reservation- “I am sorry”
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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