In a relationship, some women consider it necessary to live separately when conditions become unpleasant to them. Mostly, if the husband is performing significantly below expectations. This situation does not promote the coexistence of husband and wife in the same confines. Where a man is failing in the discharge of his marital obligations. In this arrangement, women are seen, possibly, playing the roles naturally designated for men. One of the reasons why some married women choose to live separately is due to irresponsibility on the part of men. Something is fundamentally wrong. Usually, in such cases, women become overwhelmed with the burden of rent and other essential bills.
Though it sounds somewhat inappropriate for women to choose or prefer to stay alone. At times, it might be the best option. It happens in any relationship where a man’s presence is not felt. The functions of a man are performed in a perfunctory manner.
In a close examination and findings, several reasons are identified to be responsible for this action. They are practically traced to men’s failure in their obligation as the head of the family. Five of these items are discussed in this episode:
When a man is not responsible in marriage
A man becomes irresponsible when he shows or displays a carefree attitude towards his responsibility as a husband. Ideally, a is meant to account for the upkeep of his spouse and the maintenance of his household. Generally, it is expected of a man to provide the needs of his wife, which includes shelter, clothes and food. His failure to meet this responsibility indirectly creates a vacuum. The vacuum so created must be covered. Someone must take the responsibility. Not that a man cannot be assisted in a way, but it is careless on his part if his wife takes over his responsibility. At any rate, most of the failed responsibilities will somewhat affect his spouse. She will start by doing what he is not designated to do.
Where the spouse’s support is lacking in a marriage
Marriage becomes interesting when both parties support each other. This is an important aspect of relationships. Two is always better than one. In marriage, you require the assistance of your spouse to complement your efforts. No one is sufficient. However, when support is lacking, it has a direct consequence on the other party. There are situations in marriage when a party willingly decides not to support. Therefore, if a man is becoming irresponsible by not paying necessary bills or can’t finance his household expenses, he must be supportive. Such a man should be seeing coming up with ideas and useful suggestions to lessen the burden on his wife. This attitude accounts for why some women choose to live separately.
It occasionally happens when the husband is financially distressed. For instance, if a man lost his job. He may be facing terrible challenges in his efforts to finance the family’s upkeep. His failure is not intentional, right? On the contrary, if it is due to laziness or carelessness, his presence as a man is useless.
A carefree attitude from a spouse
The assignment to take good care of a woman is bestowed on every man who finds a wife. Therefore, your wife relies on you to render this service. You don’t expect a third party to assist you in carrying out this function. Of course, both parties are responsible for taking care of each other. That’s the essence of marriage. Once this is missing, the affected party will react. Consequently, in some marriages, this is why some married women choose to live separately. However, it takes another dimension when a wife is wantonly denied necessary care. Ideally, caring is not all about money. It is about your ability to respond to every situation that affects your spouse’s welfare. You can’t be careless about your partner’s health and social life. Once you allow your wife to suffer in terms of welfare, it is the beginning of failure as a man.
“Sometimes a go, I was fortunate to settle a conflict between a couple. Both parties were mature in age, about 45. Both were in a relationship, each lived separately. Surprisingly, they were in love. The complaint was that the husband was not caring. The man’s presence was not felt, so she could stay alone without him. At the same time, the man claimed he didn’t know how to pet. After some sessions of discussion, I succeeded in teaching him how to care for his spouse. It’s not about money. It’s about your concern. Demonstrate your love through care. Let her know that you are concerned about her general welfare.”
In fact, I have recently observed that what is missing in some marriages goes beyond money. When understanding and maturity are combined with caring, the marriage will be healthy and free of unnecessary conflicts.
Faulty romantic/sexual Life
Sexual Life is personal, but it remains a marital bond between a husband and wife in most marriages. What makes a joyful relationship is dependent on their romantic life. In some marriages, money is not a problem, but a man becomes irresponsible if his sexual dimension is not satisfactory. Some wealthy individuals’ complaints do not center on financing. Settling their regular bills is no challenge. Unfortunately, some men are too busy to create time for their spouses. There is time for everything, and satisfying your sexual/romantic aspect of your marriage is fundamental. Frantically, failure in this aspect of your relationship can make a mess of the entire system. Surprisingly, a woman may disregard your presence in a marriage and therefore prefers to stay without you in her life. In fact, sex is a means of resolving marital disputes
Nevertheless, cases like this are more prominent at the early stage of marriage. When both parties are relatively young. A man is expected to satisfy his wife’s sexual desire at this level of their married life. Generally, it is part of a man’s responsibility to establish a romantic relationship with his spouse.
Persistent domestic violence
Persistent domestic violence is evil and should be discouraged in the interest of peace and marital life. Domestic violence is usually perceived as abusive behaviour. Irrespective of the nature and causes, it is one of those things that often leads to separation. It happens, particularly, when it becomes persistent and possibly unbearable. Consequently, affected women always like to live separately to gain their freedom. It simply means that the presence of men in their lives is unpleasant. Some women in this category are pressured to stay separate. It’s a good option if the situation is life-threatening. Mostly, domestic violence is a major reason why some married women choose to live separately.
In some cases, a situation may warrant both parties to argue their points. Of course, a couple might have good reason to disagree on certain critical issues. However, it takes understanding and maturity for two different people to stay together in marriage.
In all the above situations, it is clear that there are reasons attached to the decisions taken by the affected individuals. Of course, there is no smoke without fire. People take action with a major emphasis on the situation on the ground. Above all, what is important is to manage the situation before it degenerates to a level when it begins to look in the direction of living separately.
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