Marriage at the verge of crashing
When your marriage is about crashing on account of your mistake(s) and your spouse is threatening to bolt out. The positive resolving steps depend on the degree of mistake(s) and damage coursed. Naturally, no man is perfect but it is better to observe rules and regulations. Prevailing standard in every community or in a family setting should be observed. This way, some common mistakes can be avoided under normal circumstances. However some mistakes are quite inevitable, but those that fall under this category could attract pardon. Reconciliation in a challenging marital situations, can be easily lunched with emphasis on love and peace. Particularly when discovered on time.
Traceable mistakes
50% of marital issues can be resolved with little stress, when faults or mistakes are detected early and traced to either of the parties. Detecting a traceable fault is an indication that marital dispute in question would not be extremely difficult to settle. Particularly where the affected party accepts his/her fault without much excuses. The process of reconciliation, to a greater degree, becomes easier when parties accept mistakes. And see good reason for mending the situation before everything turns sour.
In any case, where it is observed with certainty that your marriage is under threat of collapsing due to your mistakes. Depending on the nature and the magnitude of the causes. two options are at your disposer.
Because you know that you are greatly at fault and that you are responsible for the mess then, take a bold steps as follows:
God guidance
First, you need God to intervene in the situation. This will give you a clear cut guidance on how to go about the reconciliation. Normally we need God involvement in our marital affair.
Seek your spouse attention with maximum humility.
Seek your spouse attention with maximum humility. — approach your partner with respect when you are demanding his attention. This will make him/her to feel honoured. and recognized
With carefulness let your spouse know that you are responsible for the mess
With carefulness let your spouse know that you are responsible for the mess. — explain to your spouse that, it was a mistake on your part. NB. in this case you need to be moderate and be more careful in your choice of words. Do not shoot yourself on the leg, by talking too much.
With all diligence seek your spouse forgiveness
With all diligence seek your spouse forgiveness { dear trust me, it wouldn’t happen again } — let your spouse see clearly that you have regret your action with remorse And that genuinely you accepted that you are wrong in your action.
Appreciate your spouse for giving you audience.
Appreciate your spouse for giving you audience. — thank him/her for showing understanding. In all ramification let your spouse see changes in your way. At least in the interest of peace do your best to please him/her. You know your spouse better.
Without ego, application of the above highlighted steps will avail you opportunity at least to get your spouse attention. Be careful, the spirit of remorse is importantly necessary in this concept. Your ability to get him/her to look at you and grant you attention is the ultimate. You also know your mistake and the extent of damage it has cause your spouse. So you need to go out of your way to get his/her attention . Berry your pride to save your marriage.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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