Managing marital privacy is relevant to the sound and healthy relationship between husband and wife. And as such, it explains the significance behind the need to fence out or instead prevent any act of intrusion. Therefore, keeping and protecting privacy is the responsibility of both parties. A carelessness to effect necessary protection would open passage for intruders. Importantly, preserving your precious marriage depends on how to prevent marital intruders from encroaching on your privacy.
An intruder in this context is a person who, uninvitedly or carelessly, enters into a marital affair of another couple.
Impact of intruding on a marriage
The activities of intruders usually have a direct effect on marriage. And it can be somewhat difficult to discover, especially where he/she is a friend or a family member. Intruding can be a deliberate act or innocently carried out. In any capacity, the consequence is the same and can be so devastating to the existing relationship. Sadly, this can lead straight to acute misunderstanding and, eventually snowball into a divorce. However, to restrict potential intruders is important. At the same time never allow cracks in your marital wall
How to know an intruder
In most cases, intruders usually fall within the category of friends and family. And sometimes can be external.
An intruder is commonly inquisitive. He wants to know everything about your family. A typical intruder is fond of asking many questions.
Anyone who steadily discredits your spouse is an intruder. The essence is to bring down your partner and disclose his/her deficiency.
An intruder is usually careless in his judgement. Often he takes sides at any time he has an opportunity to mediate between husband and wife.
His statements are inflammatory in nature, capable of igniting annoyance on the part of either of the couple.
Notwithstanding the above-mentioned elements, some people are naturally careless in their dealings with other couples.
Guarding against intruders and their activities
A joint effort of the two parties is necessary to, actively, work against intruders and their activities. At any rate, husband and wife must agree on how to prevent marital intruders.
Know your friend’s interests and disposition. This provides you with the opportunity to understand her manner of person. And what benefits do you stand to gain in your friendship? To a greater extent, a jealous friend has an interest in everything.
Be careful to discourse issues that are, extremely, private to your relationship.
Restrict private discussion in your closet. Never discourse certain marital issues in the presence of visitors.
Avoid unnecessary closeness with your spouse’s friends.
Minimise incessant complaints about your spouse’s inadequacy.
Limit the rate of reporting your spouse to your neighbours.
Learn to resolve marital issues without a third party.
Confine visitors to your Living room/visitors’ room.
Minimise requests for financial support, where it becomes necessary.
Be proactive in all marital issues, in order to prevent degeneration.
Exploit marital communication.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
