Unless there is a strong binding spirit between husband and wife, love is not secured. For love is erratic in nature. It easily gives way to hatred when tampered with. The lady that cherished you can become your enemy in another second. The relationship that subsists between love and hatred is a tiny passage. A passage that gives way for love to escape, can easily usher in hatred. Sometimes, a slight mistake can lead straight to an acute disagreement. And where necessary action is not promptly taken, it may lead to hatred. Once this happens it required, plenty of sacrifices to come back to the former pedestrian. Therefore managing unity in marital life involves a great deal of agreement, understanding and sacrifice. All in the interest of peace and love.
Unity is a binding element
Unity as a binding element that glues couples together in marriage, gives rise to an entity. It last longer, for as long as love remains a connecting factor. In business, for instance, the connecting factor is profit. An interest that is either implied or boldly written for legal implication. Not so in love. Love is an optional deep affection one has for another person. At the initial stage, it does not connote an element of compulsion. No legal bidding is required to enforce a love affair. Consequently, when lovers jilt themselves, no legal action can be taken against either of the parties. Unfortunately, this accounts for the reason why jilted fellow remains in a desolate condition for a long while. Particularly if the relationship has gone far.
Why do couples live in disagreement?
Many factors are usually responsibly for living in disunity. Basically, it is a conflict of people’s opinions, actions, characters and influences. A situation where husband and wife are not just having a common ground. Ideas from each side are mostly not in agreement. Neither of them would like to compromise his/her stand. Moreso lack of understanding is often responsible for most of the rift. Again unsolicited influence is another devastating factor. But for whatever reason, the fact is that the real principle of love is lacking. Of course, it requires 2 people to play a game in marriage. Both must understand the rules of the game. More importantly, is the agreement to play the game. In whatever capacity win-win is the best slogan. Avoid winner-takes it all in a marital relationship.
Agreement remains the key factor in any arena of love. It is a binding factor that creates unity, in the first place. Whereas if the agreement is not in existence love has no basis. Lack of agreement at the same time leads to disunity. Which can always create a passage of exit for love. Truly, no marriage without misunderstanding. Both parties are responsible for managing unity in marital life.
Agreement, Understanding and Sacrifice
At times one of the parties may not see reasons for unity. He/She believes that the individual is eligible for his/her rights. And as such husband and wife should run marital affairs unilaterally. Thereby endangering the purpose of marriage. Though it is not bad to exercise right. But, it should be carefully managed. Marriage is an institution where both parties must engage in a lot of agreements and sacrifices. Remember it takes two to be in love. Ab initio, you must agree to come together for love’s sake. Unfortunately, both are from different backgrounds. Even identical twins will never behave alike. Understanding is needed to have a successful marriage life. You may need to sacrifice your idea and interest to win your spouse. And with agreement unity is sure.
But for marriage to be in progress and witness an appreciative level of peace, understanding is required. For man and woman to agree and do things in common, much effort is needed. These are two separate entities. Now coming to operate as one. Not minding their individual potentials, love brings them together through agreement. Means or method adopted by individuals to achieve common ground differs. Your ability to keep going in the face of challenges is important. Sometimes getting things done involves negotiation. You may have to pay price to win your spouse. Things like this are private, and not for third-party consumption.
Marital sacrifice strengthens the relationship
A king had a terrible disagreement with his wife. This resulted in malice. He decided not to eat her food. For peace to reign, she reported the case to his friend for advice. Againhe pleaded to no avail. After much unfruitful efforts, she relocated to another room. Five days later an invitation letter was received in the palace. All paramount rulers were invited to a special occasion in the statehouse. Each must come with his Queen. The situation, therefore, called for reconciliation to take place without delay. For this reason, he went to the room for settlement. There, he humbled himself and has to fulfil certain conditions. Not meant for discussion here. It is private, and not for a third party. Everyone must devise a method to settle disputes in his(or her) domain.
Sacrifice involves things you ordinarily wouldn’t have liked to do. But because you want to maintain peace, progress, and love in your marital life. Do it to manage your home.
Signs of unity in a marriage relationship
Speaking the same language is essential between couples. Because both need to discourse issues before making a joint decision. Particularly on issues that affect their marriage. In this case, a unilateral decision is not encouraged. An efficient decision is better taken with emphasis on other related issues. So, when an effective discussion is made before a decision, things go in accordance with their plan. Except with agreement/unity, this cannot be achieved. It takes much unity for husband and wife to have a common view.
They often have a strong focus on all marital issues. Because of their unity, they jointly work their way through to success. Projects are designed with common interests and focus. By their standard, they would not entertain distractions outside their marital concern. With unity, the couple can successfully move a mountain. And because of this, third parties and intruders are scared off.
Trust is the key that normally strengthens unity in a healthy marital setting. So have a profound trust in your spouse. Always seek his/her contribution before taking a decision that is marital in nature. Avoid unnecessary blame will enhance managing unity in marital life.
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