When you lost grip of your lover

Having a good grip on your lover is the ultimate. An indication that you are relevant with good influence. It simply shows that both are in love. But once a party can no longer exercise influence on his/her lover, then there is a problem. Something serious has gone wrong. Hence there is a loss of grip. Obviously, when you lost grip of your lover, certain things will be out of your reach. A vacuum full of sadness is immediately created

To establish a good grip

In every marital arrangement, love is the genesis. A connecting factor that brings two separate bodies into a tight relationship. At the apex, it is real love. When deep affection can be easily perceived. Then a good grip is said to have been established. Ideally, at this particular stage of the love circle, no third party is entertained. A region, devoid of hatred and bitterness. However if for any reason one loses grip of his/her lover. The chance of regaining it is 0.5 (50%). So it requires efforts to maintain and strengthen relationships in terms of love. However achieving a good grip on your lover, involves sacrifice, maturity and good understanding.

Many things are likely to be responsible for the unpleasant situation. But if it is as a result of offences, where one offends the other, resolving is usually easy. On the contrary where one loses the grip not because of his/her fault, such can be difficult to mend. In this case, the other person may not want to disclose reasons for his/her action. Whatever the situation, something is responsible. Though the possible reason(s) might be quite obscured to the one that lost the grip. Of course, when you lost grip on your lover a vacuum is created.

Possible reasons for loss of grip

Notwithstanding your faithfulness, a lover may decide to change his/her mind due to the followings:

When he/she discovers another lover who appeals to him/her more

Though your deep affection for him/her may be great. Of course, you care for him. Since you are not yet married he may switch to another person. Someone you care for may get attracted to another lover. Particularly at the early stage of love. At times a just-discovered lover may appeal to him more.

Where he/she does not just like you again

At times hatred develops without reason. It is quite abnormal, but it does happen.

“We have witnessed a situation like that. A woman suddenly declared that she does not like her husband again. Unfortunately, she could not explain why. She went to court and call for a legal separation. All efforts to reconcile failed“.

When you are not compatible

Mostly at the initial stage love can be blind. And one can choose to love for various reasons. But when one later discovers that his/her lover lacks certain qualities. Particularly if such qualities are necessary to make love stronger. The option is to look out for a person with such qualities. It is not out of place to search for a compatible lover.

When trust is betrayed

As a pivot upon which love is predicated, trust should be carefully managed. A lover may decide not to continue the game when trust is betrayed.

When one is careless

It is very possible to lose the grip of one’s lover due to carelessness. If you are not as serious as expected. He may decide to go for a more serious fellow. Who will facilitate his dream.

How to know if your lover is no longer interested

Lack of feeling

Once you observe that your lover does not have feelings for you again. It means that he/she does not have an interest any further. For instance, much of his usual complement will reduce. You would not receive a, get well message when you are down.

Loss of interest

You will notice that his interest has been shifted to another person. So he/she does not think about you any longer. During discussions, he/she wouldn’t initiate ideas. And his/her response will always be off track. Because of this you hardly can get him online.

Lack of attention

Because another lover is engaging him/her, you cannot receive attention again. His/her time is fully allotted to the new person. So there is no time for you like before. When you notice this, be assured that someone has engaged his attention. It is usually difficult to effect any changes in a situation like this.

He/She does not pick up your calls again

No consideration will be given to your calls. When you place a call she would not pick it up. No reference for you anymore.

No visitation

When you observe a severe reduction in your lover’s visitations. It can be assumed that something is wrong. But if it persists, then something more interesting is taking his/her time. It will be wise to visit him/her. Anything you notice will confirm the reality.

No demand for sex

When he/she does not demand sex, it shows there is no likeness again. Sex is a strong indicator of love. So, something is wrong if he/she does not make a request in the usual manner.