Trust as a back bone of love
As a strong positive emotion of regard and affection, love still needs a strong back bone. And this is where trust comes in. Except you learn to trust your spouse, you stand to doubt every step of his. Why doubting your spouse? Doubt is a device to indicate lack of confidence in your spouse. Marriage as an institution remains strong when trust is considered a fundamental pillar of love.
A couple had a misunderstanding in the morning over who carries their children to school. The husband claimed that he had pressing issue to attend to in the office. And because to this reason he hurriedly drove out. The wife had no choice than to arrange for a taxi to carry herself and the three children to school. While in the vehicle she noticed that she did not remember to carry her bag. She immediately pleaded with the driver to assist by driving back home. On reaching home she could not locate her bag on time. While searching, suddenly, she saw a business card on the floor. The card belong to one Mrs Matina Cole. But at the other side of the card, it was written with blue biro the following message;
To Mr. Williams — make it early before 8am, Suit 5, ground floor, Danniel Hotel. We will make it snappy, not more than one hour please.
Having read this she collapsed. The driver and a neighbour rushed her to an hospital within the neighborhood. Her husband, Mr William who was in a meeting with his clients, was called by the neighbour. He rushed to the hospital with his clients, Mrs Matina Cole, Mr Bolaji M. and Mrs Jone Tina.
After about 2hrs Mrs William woke up only to ask her husband to explain who was Mrs matina cole. Without hesitating, her husband explained that Mrs Cole was a reliable client through whom his Auditing Firm made over =N=5m in the previous year.
Believing in the honesty and reliability
To have complete confidence in one’s spouse is a trust. Therefore, both are duty bound to establish a trustful relationship in the interest of love. Where this is in existence. the language of doubt and dishonesty is banished. So at any point in time the two of them will always be on the same page. At the early stage of marital life it is benefiting to learn to trust one’s spouse. This, soon, becomes a bedrock upon which every other things rest. The reverse can only come to play where and when husband refuses to learn to trust his spouse. In the first place when wife believes in the honesty and reliability of her spouse, the door is closed on any intruding third party. However, if by any standard the trust is betrayed the consequential effect can be so devastating.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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