Beware, certain marital issues that are not meant for the third party are usually made opened. Particularly when trust is betrayed and love is beclouded. Usually this happens due to unguided activities of the spouse. In marital life, trust is a pivot on which love depends. And as such any attempt to tamper with it has a consequential effect, on the entire family system. Couple must be careful in their utterances and the way trust is handled. At any rate, when trust is betrayed and love is beclouded It has consequence. Therefore both of them need to avoid actions or steps that can affect trust. One thing that is very clear is that someone is badly injured when trust is betrayed. And in most cases little or negligible things, often lead to unnecessary differences. Except such differences is handled on time and with care, things may go out of hand.
Trust is a delicate issue and needs to be handled with care. Once it is affected,the injured party will react. The extent of the reaction will be determined by the degree of the damage caused. Immediately trust is defiled, love is consequently beclouded. Note that it is not always easy to convince your confidant, after betraying him/her. An effective antidote is to avoid any act capable of betraying trust.
Understanding your spouse;
To guide against this kind of occurrences, both should study and identify anything that can cause displeasure to his/her spouse. Even though there are individual differences. What can make Mrs Adeo grows annoyed, may not necessarily have serious meaning to Mr Adeo. But the ideal thing is to understand themselves. In any case where wife has better understanding of her spouse’s dos and don’t there is usually peace.
Avoiding third party
Some acts are serious and can affect, extremely, the confidence repose on somebody. Once this is noticed a swift step must be quickly taken to remedy the ugly situation before it degenerates. It is only when corrective actions are not taken promptly that you will see the aggrieved party nagging and displaying his or her displeasure. Coupled with this, the injured spouse may start reacting and references could be made to similar things in the past. In the process, certain ungodly statement and various devastating utterances could be made. Some of which should not go to the hearing of any third party.
Certainly what is preferable is to personally settle all issues amicable and not to invite any third party for settlement. At the same time there are some cases that often defiles personal approach. Whatever the degree of the ugly situation all it requires is pro-activeness. Take steps without delay.
Corrective measure
-1- Identify the mistake [ wrong ] -2- Agree that truly you are wrong -3- Show remorse for the wrong committed -4- Seek his/her attention with humility -5- Make brief explanation with sincerity -6- Apologize [ am sorry for the mistake ] with remorse -7- Forgiven heart is essentially important -8- Present gift [of a reasonable amount ] .
Note that, in any circumstances where appropriate steps are taken to no avail. Then attention of the third party becomes necessary for advice. And essentially to settle the differences in the interest of peace and love. The party that committed mistake(s) must be proactive in this case, so that appropriate steps are taken.
All actions or moves that can lead to distrust should be avoided, however the following are capable of leading to distrust:
-1- Extramarital affair -2- Revealing marital secret -3- Financial distrust -4- laughing / jest of spouse deficiency -5- Moving with ungodly friends -6- Using of unlovely statement -7- Sex scandal -8- Rumor.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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