Creating an enduring and happy spousal relationship is pivotal to the existence of a healthy marriage. Obviously, achieving this involves a lot of effort and sacrifices. So it is the primary responsibility of both parties to guide their spousal relationship jealously. A good relationship is normally devoid of hatred and prolonged quarrels. As such, concerted efforts are needed to ensure that the relationship is consolidated. Nobody does this for you. It is an affair within your marital jurisdiction. Importantly, to strengthen a spousal relationship is a collective efforts of the couples, or else a third party may be invited ignorantly.
However, in most cases, the more concerned and caring partner usually champions the course. In order to prevent a crack in their marital wall, such a concerned party takes responsibility. He/she will be willing and ready to sacrifice instead of allowing the relationship to nose dive. Where there is a balanced character, one of the two will necessarily be level-headed. Such a spouse takes the right step in the direction of reconciliation. He/she knows the right time to approach his/her spouse for settlement.
For instance, personally, it is part of me to champion such a course. And this is because no one does it right. I know and understand my spouse better. Our spousal relationship has come of age. Certainly, several ups and downs were witnessed before it reached this stage. So, each time the need arises, often, I offer sincere apologies when and where necessary. At times I go out of my way to ensure a swift settlement of differences. I find myself under obligation to do that which I could not have done, under normal circumstances. All because I need to protect and straighten the relationship. Above all, tolerance is the key.
Necessary tools required to strengthen spousal relationship
Efficient spousal communication
Communicate with your spouse with appropriate words, in the right place and time. Be free to open up. Avoid unguided statements.
Perform your responsibility
Always perform your responsibility with all sincerity. Never become an unnecessary burden to your spouse.
Be romantic with your spouse
Be characterized by the expression of love with your spouse. Do everything to satisfy your spouse’s sexual preference. Marriage becomes interesting and well sealed when both parties are romatic.
Cherish your spouse always
Honour and give due respect to your husband. The husband should work towards earning his wife’s respect and not begging for it.
Be caring
Demonstrate unconditional care for your spouse in all circumstances.
Be trustworthy
Create genuine and sincere trust, so that your spouse can rely on you. Absolute confidence is necessary to create a robust relationship. No doubt, marriage becomes healthier when both parties trust each other.
Always be attractive to your spouse
Let your appearance be a source of attraction and joy to your spouse. Be conscious of your dress and makeup.
Learn to ignore
You need not reacting to all issues. In marriage, not all matters required attention. Basically, are you not under obligation to respond to certain insignificant subject. As such, you need to handle marital issues with utmost care.
Create an avenue for spousal discussion
Have a quality discussion with your spouse always. Initiate marital discussions and, treat as appropriate. To consolidate spousal relationship, always bring issues on the table for delebration before taking decisions.
Embrace proactiveness in marital issues
Do not allow issues to degenerate before taking steps. Rise up to issues at the appropriate time with a sense maturity. Therefore, it is essential to be proactive in marital issues. Many things will begin to go wrong if you are always late in taking action .
Be tolerant
Marital relationships become strengthened when couples understand the importance of tolerance in a marriage. For this reason, couples need to accommodate themselves in terms of characters and beliefs. Remember you are from different backgrounds. Living together cannot be without differences. But with tolerance, things will fall into place.
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My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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