When love is substantially established
Now that love is substantially established between couple, the next line of action is to strengthen it. This will enable lovers to further solidify and develop on the existing love.. A security wall is formed to prevent intruders and all manner of unwanted friends. No crack is allowed on the wall, so as to fence out the possibility of love snatchers. At this point, it is apparently clear that management of love is a business on its own. It all depends on how you want to protect your own. Well, at the moment you are in control. All of these have to do with the efforts you intensify on how to strengthen love in the interest of your marital life. A strong lovers make a healthy marriage.
You are in control
At the early stage of marital life, the love is obviously shining to the notice of everyone. And everything is working out in-their favour, Ranging from wedding gifts to well wishes. Also, it is believed that all old lovers and other related friends would relocate. They necessarily need to stay clear, otherwise…….. Relations and some friends will have to reduce their frequency to your house. The belief is that the new couple should be allowed to manage their marital life. Again, you are in control. Your spouse is your assistant, your helper, your friend and of course your confidant. For now, you are left alone to do all these alone.. Naturally some ideas on how to do things will start to unfold. I mean things you have not done before, including preparation of different meal from your spouse tribe. Remember you are from different background, but now residing under one roof in the name of love and marriage.
Taking steps in the right direction
The so called love, if not properly managed and protect can always get infected or affected by some variables. The nature of which might be beyond your control. You don’t wait for ugly situation to come before taking action please. And your actions must be efficient enough so as not to affect other things.So that you do not create problems of having enemies among friends and family. In this case, you need wisdom to be able to take steps in the right directions. You have to be smart in all your dealings, with emphasis on your spouse and his disposition to issues.
Practically your spouse is the main person who really needs your love in this game. For this single reason, your focus is on how to secure his/her attention. Intensify efforts to prove that you have all she needs in the arena of love. So he does not have any good reason(s) to look elsewhere. This is a big task, as you must be able to let him see the reason. While doing this, you are indirectly securing his love for you. So long as you have succeeded in bracing him up with necessary ingredients of love, you are good to go. It is all about securing your marriage.
7 steps to be taken
First is to show and make it abundantly clear that you love your spouse dearly. Experiment your love towards him/her. If it is a genuine one, your spouse will know and he/she will definitely want to reciprocate. What this required is sincerity, trust and openness.
Build up a real trust.— In this case, your altitude and conduct are strong determinant of the trust. Whether he can repose his confidence on you has to do with your actions and utterances. Your behavior towards people in and around you is a factor. Your contentment capacity matter in this case.
Establish and improve on the level of care you display.– Let your spouse see and confirm your caring ability. You can not love without care. But the degree of care now depends on your response and seriousness.
Give adequate support to your spouse in all appropriate instances.– Necessary supports in his /her endeavor to actualize his/her dream is important. Behind every successful man there must be a woman. Always be there for your spouse.
Set a table at the right time.– Prepare the best food for spouse, Follow him/her with understanding. Your responsibility on your dinning table is absolutely yours. So why instructing friend to carry it out. When you cultivate the habit of serving your spouse’s meal personally, It simply shows that you are in charge. Personally I feel good and respected when I see my spouse serving me. I hardly complain, I trust.
Avoid bad friends who are wayward in their conduct.– Prevent fiends staying with your spouse when you are not around. The mind set of individual matters in this aspect. You probable may not know the intention of some of your friends. Give them any chance and they will take advantage. And that can be so devastating on your marital life.
Always be patient on issues that can create differences.– -Be careful with those issues that are inflammatory in nature. And the only tool that can be used in this case is patience. When this is put to appropriate use the result is maximum. As patience is relevant in most cases.
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My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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