Marital differences are quite unavoidable irrespective of love and level of understanding. As a result, there would always be a reason for a face-off between husband and wife. You never can tell, the nature and the root cause of the problem. No matter your observation there is a limit to what you can know. Many a time, they don”t open up the real cause of the conflict to a third party. They probably think it is not necessary to disclose certain facts. Notwithstanding the nature and intensity, face-off in marital life is an internal affair. Not meant for a third party.
Many things can be responsible for a face-off in a marital setting. Sometimes, unnecessary arguments and doubting of one’s spouse do course a face-off. And the parties concerned are, usually, not willing to disclose. The fact remains that marital issue irrespective of their nature, it is private. Therefore, any issue that concerns husband and wife needs not much external influence.
Information not meant for a third party
Under normal circumstances, there are issues that are more intimate and personal. They are not in any way available for a third person. Consequently, what often leads to differences in this category are almost negligible. But can be very important to either of the parties. At any rate, the interest of the individual players in a marital relationship is private. Apparently without a third party.
Discussion with friends
Certain discussions, do exist between friends as in confiding in themselves. Often, it is for the sake of advice and relief. There may be a good reason to confine in a friend. As a matter of fact, you must know what to discourse and the limit. However, Issues under this category may not necessarily be private to husband and wife. ‘My car has been down for some days. And my dear never bother to assist in fixing it. Unfortunately, I don’t have cash’.
Resolving conflict internally
Resolving marital conflict internally is more appreciated. Sadly, some issues can be difficult to settle. A situation where both parties find it hard to reach a compromise. Everything seems rough, scatter and devastating. And, unfortunately, such can result in a face-off in marital life. It, therefore, requires carefulness and maturity to handle. To a greater extent, the ability to convince your spouse to see reason is important. It is, practically, possible to resolve marital issues without a third party. Above all, to rekindle love and be responsible for all that matters is necessary to strengthen relationships.
Communication in marriage
Communication plays a major role in preventing and management of marital conflicts. So, there should be room for flexibility in communication. Particularly, on issues that concern relationships. Therefore, bringing issues to the table for discussion enhances conflict resolution in marriage. Conversely, bottling up greveances in marriage is a threat to the relationship. All matters predicated on marriage are subjects for dicussion.
Being proactive in tackling issues is a sure way of preventing conflicts. In essence, prompt attention becomes important to issues that matters. Showing adequate concern to request and complaint of one’s partner is essential. At the same time, proactiveness to issues is a master key to minimize incenssant complaints.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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