Edging out your rival

In every competition, it is a fact that two or more people are struggling for the same thing. Of course, each of the contestants is a potential winner. The struggle continues until the last minute. However, individual participant has different reasons for engaging in the race. Some of the participants would be more serious at the beginning. And the likelihood of some quitting before the completion is a fact. So it is, in the case of rivalry in love, where two or more are chasing one person. Edging out your rival in love is never an easy task, however, it reflects determination, skill and unwavering seriousness, for you to win.

Competition among lovers

At the initial stage, mainly before marriage one is likely to experience competition among lovers. It is possible for instance, for three guys to chase after a lady. It simply means that they are rivals to one another. Genuinely they are in a race of equal chance. There can only be a winner at the end. So what does it take to be a winner? If truly you are desirous of winning, then you think of edging out your rival with style. Quite a big task indeed.

Finding yourself in the game means there is contact and interest. All it requires now is to prepare for a winning game. Normally, this does not come by chance. Certain actions, such as those mentioned below are relevant.

Preliminary steps

Study your lover

The first step is to understand your lover, intimately. Try to study him/her, such that you get familiar with his/her dos and don’ts. While the study is ongoing, you will be open to more of his/her character, reasoning style and reaction to issues By this, you will have an understanding of his attitude and disposition towards friends. In addition, at this level, you will have the opportunity to determine whether you have rivals or not. Particularly if you are not prefixed to any of his/her lovers.

Reaffirm your decision

You need to make your decision clear about your interest. Basically, love is a deep affection you have for someone you care for! The affirmation is a way of consolidating your interest. Let it be clear that you care and are serious about what you stand for. You don’t have to go blind in love, at this stage. Remember, you are not alone in the race. The moment you make this known to him, invariable his consciousness is awakened. Unlike others. However, don’t go too far if you don’t really love him/her for any good reason.

Personal assessment

Compatibility

Now that you are becoming acquainted with his style and character, the next is to consider compatibility. This may not be naturally there. But because you have an interest, you need to work it out. Critically observe his character and see if you can cope. Normally it makes sense if the chance of coping is higher. As a matter of fact, there is no absolute compatibility in any relationship. Much as you know his dos and don’ts, there is no point in violating them. It is an essential element required in an effort to edging out your rival.

Watch your Lifestyle

Though, it may be somewhat difficult to change your lifestyle. But because of your interest, modification becomes necessary. It is wise to operate in consonant with his own style. Of course, it cannot be 100%. “For instance, if you have an interest in a more religious person. Then, you would be conscious of your lifestyle”. In any case, moderation is the watchword.

Knowing your rivals

Knowing your rivals gives you an apple chance to study them from a reasonable distance. And to do this, effectively, you need information mostly where you don’t know them. Such is possible through a normal interactive section between you and your lover. You will have to create a situation where you can stylishly ask questions about his other girlfriends. Be careful, don’t be raw in your finding. At times it can be difficult. Never mind, on a good day when both of you are in a good mood certain intelligent questions can be asked. Note that you might need to read between the line. Especially where the answer or response is not clear enough.

Having collected the necessary information about your rival, a proper analysis is required. It will enable you to make an appropriate comparison. By this, you will have a clearer view of his disposition towards other ladies.

Analyse strengths and weakness

Finally, apply the principle of SWOT analysis to work on your weaknesses and use your strength to your advantage. Consider the opportunity and avoid any form of threat that could possibly emanate in the process.

Strength – It indicates the area in which you are good and possibly better than your rival. Normally your lover would notice and appreciate you for a certain quality. That is your strength. As such you need to treasure it and do more to impress him further in that direction.

Weakness – Areas you are not performing better. For instance, if you are not good at romance as against your lover’s interest. This area needs improvement. As a matter of fact, most of the areas you are not measuring up required more effort.

Opportunity – You need to take advantage of every opportunity in the struggle to win. “For instance, a rich and physically challenged young man explained how his wife wins his heart. He said she made it a point of duty to attend to his mobility during their school days. Other friends never bother about his mobility constraint’.

Threat – Those things you don’t have control over. They are usually in form of constraints, they have the potential in causing damage to a relationship. Notwithstanding, try to avoid them if they cannot be managed.

Conclusion

Generally, edging out your rival involves a great deal of effort and sacrifice. Since everyone has a winning chance, you need to maximise your opportunity. Be tactical in your approach to issues that concern your rival. Discourage yourself from discoursing your rival with your lover. Focus your attention on the subject matter and sharpen your determination. Try to understand your lover’s style and respect his do’s and don’ts. More so appearing smart and neat is a good and sure way to attract your partner. By doing this, you are indirectly scaling up your chances of edging out your rivals.