Getting the best for yourself is the ultimate. But when you missed a person of your choice, what next? Well, this sounds like a question devoid of any good answer. Of course to those who are not confident of themselves. Who probably are not in control of their love. They are not mindful of their uniqueness as a person. In whatever capacity, everyone has a peculiarity, uniqueness, and therefore different from others. So you have what someone else needs. Certainly, it takes two to tangle. You don’t have to be frustrated because of a disappointment from your lover.
A friend of mine became very sick when his lover( Shade ) went after another guy. The guy was not in any way as presentable as my friend. My friend Tunde was a secondary school teacher, Tall and dark in complexion. Intelligent enough to be a friend to any lady in and around our community. The other guy was not bad, but a roadside- mechanic. Notwithstanding an individual’s status, compatibility matters.
Tunde became worried and very sick because of the incident. For this reason, I took it upon myself to invite Shade. She honored my invitation. And I scheduled the meeting to hold in a closed- by eatery with moderate expenses. I appreciated her presence and I made this known to her.
Without delay, I initiated a discussion. The discussion centered on her action toward my friend. I further expressed my displeasure over her action. Immediately, I disclosed the effect of her action on my friend. In her response, she made it clear that the other guy was more caring and full of action. Adding that he had confidence. She opened up that the other guy was better for her in terms of love.
So the underline fact is that the lady went for someone who care for her. She found what she really wanted in the other guy. Quality such as care, confidence, and action.
The fact remains that Tunde has to look elsewhere for another better lover. And not to finish himself because of disappointment from a lady. Nevertheless, because of his own uniqueness, another lady is surely waiting for him somewhere. Let him search for a lover who will love him eloquently.
Finally, let him make necessary changes by improving on those deficiencies pointed out by shade. And to study lover/spouse’s character is relevant. My friend, don’t be frustrated because of disappointment.
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My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
