A crack in the wall can sometimes be inevitable. But when discovered, an immediate repair becomes necessary. Mind you, a stitch in time saves nine. But taking appropriate steps to address it, immediately, covers unwanted openings. And as such, intruders are promptly refused passage. Obviously, cracks in the marital wall remain insidious until action is taken to address them. Apparently, delays can be more dangerous.
Intruders usually take advantage of carelessness on the part of some couples. Those that find it almost impracticable to resolve marital issues without a third party are more vulnerable. They ignorantly give passage to intruders. Nonetheless, many factors are usually responsible for this opening. Some of which, unfortunately, is your making. Certain marital misfortunes are not natural.
Reasons for cracks in the marital wall
- Unguided utterances and open insults between husband and wife often send signals of discord;
- Indiscreet discussion about one’s marital affairs with a third party opens up secrets;
- Incessant complaints about one’s spouse can easily create awareness on the part of neighbours;
- Acute hatred between couples can easily enhance cracks in a marital wall.
- Expensive jokes trigars and provoke spouse’s annoyance;
- Unnecessary arguments between husband and wife can sometimes lead to discomfort;
- Keeping friends who gossip about others is unhealthy for the family;
- Unnecessary doubt about one’s spouse gives room for nagging and distrust.
- Character change in marital life is a major cause of cracks
Managing cracks in the marital walls
To prevent uninvited moderators, both must learn to manage their face-offs. Under normal circumstances, what causes misunderstanding between couples resides within. No doubt, there is the possibility of external causes.
Mending marital crack is normal. It happens in every home. But what is important is to take steps in an effort to manage the situation. For this reason, proactiveness is the watchword. Never wait for an outsider to point out your deficiency. At any rate, take charge and fix it right.
Many people in marriage carelessly allow simple and ordinary misunderstandings to tarry for too long. And because of pride none of them would be spirited enough to initiate reconciliation. Surprisingly, all it requires to resolve differences is I am sorry. Notwithstanding its simplicity, its effectiveness can be remarkable.
Trace out the reasons or causes of the problem. Take note of who is responsible. Thereafter, arrange for reconciliation without further delay. Never hesitate to tender an apology if you are at fault. Finally, workout modality to forestall a re-occurrence of cracks in the marital wall.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
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