Reporting your spouse to the appropriate person is not out of place. But at what time it becomes almost inevitable is relevant. To whom the report goes to is paramount. Most importantly is the consequential effect of such action. So a due caution is what really matter before taking such a step. Most at time the out come can be so disgusting. Highly offensive to the couple. Therefore it is necessary to always put many things into consideration before reporting your spouse.
A threat to the existence of marriage
However there are some extreme occasions that required reporting. The big question is, to who? And because of this, couple are encouraged to avoid it. However where it becomes necessary, one should not hesitate. The nature and magnitude of the incidence would determine the action. Of a fact, certain issues remain a threat to the existence of marriage. Some can be so implicating and devastating in all ramifications. Others can lead to scandal and disgrace. To this end after several dialogues, sacrifices, understanding, endurance and warning, reporting can be considered.
Appropriate person
To whom such report is made is another issue. In considering the person to report to, his/her capability, skill and experience is material. The question as to whether he/she must be a relative, friend, neighbour or a paid consultant is another. At any rate the essential fact is to achieve an efficient and effective solution. In the course of proffering solution we must ensure that no boat is rocked. And sensitive information are well managed all in the interest of peace,love and unity. But to some extent, one can hardly be so sure of secrecy of some fundamental information. Particularly in a non consultant arrangement.
“A man incidentally ran into a situation where his spouse engaged in a romance with a neighbour. He reported the incidence to a more mature gentle man. He was his uncle. Good enough the man handled the matter with maturity and experience. The problem was effectively resolved, but devoid of secrecy. Because the issue later became open to other neighbours. Neighbours who were not prefixed to the information initially”.
Possible effect
The aftermath effect of reporting our spouses should always be considered before action. Otherwise things would have been so damaged beyond repair. Couple necessarily should have quality endurance, sacrifice, maturity and understanding to handle tough marital situation. Adequate care, trust, love and maturity are essential ingredients required to maintain marital life. Efforts is necessary to avoid involvement of a third party, unless where it becomes extremely necessary.
My name is Muyideen Elemoro. I am a Nigerian from Ibeju -Lekki Local government in Lagos State. I reside in Abuja, Nigeria.
I am a retired Civil Servant. Presently, I am a marketer and Blogger.
Essentially I write on marital and other related issues. I engage, as a part-time, in Marriage seminar and other related issues.
